With all of our devices at hand, have we lost our capability to be alone?
Our brains are being continually stimulated by both the visual stimulus of the bright screens and the psychological effect of the ‘hits’ we get from things like getting new emails or exploring the fun things we enjoy online. Rest and relaxation are not valued in our society like they once were or should be.
It can be such a challenge to unplug, we often allow technology to invade our personal life.
Part of it is the psychological addiction we have to our devices and part of it is the pressure we feel to be plugged in, like everyone else, to keep up. The Fear of Missing out is a social anxiety that is felt when someone believes that others are having fun without him/her. There is an anxiety that comes with social media that prevents you from being happy in the present. Enjoying the moment without a phone in your face ready to capture the moment is a rare thing.
We are so connected with the world that now we have trouble spending some time alone with ourselves. If you have a phone on you then you can never be alone.
To seek peace of mind, one needs to be able to unplug and step outside of themselves in order to re-evaluate their place in life. The very best solitude is not to be found in a connected life.
Seeking solitude is seen as being selfish and unproductive. You need to get away from all these mediums to know yourself, to spend some time in solitude. Disconnecting with the world is a hard but important task that one must do. Being alone is essential for reprogramming your thoughts, you need to distance yourself from others' opinions to get a clear view of what matters to you.
Being online can, in a way, take away our sense of reality. Maintaining a sense of self will keep us connected to the now and keep us present in the moment.
Disconnecting from our connected life makes us more productive and setting aside time each day to recharge does good to us and everyone around us.
We have automatically guided ourselves to a sense of peace from within by incorporating more down time and have come to realize that the more time we have spent with ourselves, the more we can identify what decisions we take and what options we choose. We have come to re-discover and encounter ourselves once more. We are more alert and conscious, and it’s become evident that the more you zen out, take a step back, do what makes your soul happy, the more clarity and better decisions can be made with no one’s conflicting opinions in the mix.
Everyone practices solitude in their own way, some like to retreat in nature while others prefer meditation. If you are a beginner in your journey of solitude then it will be hard for you to avoid distractions, you will busy yourself with the menial task to avoid spending time by yourself, and even if you do sit alone there are higher chances that you will divert yourself with your phone or television.
The first step in creating a habit of solitude is to learn to sit alone, without your phone.
1. Pick your a place to practice solitude.
2. Keep your phone away, in a place that doesn't distract you.
3. Get a journal and write all your thoughts, whatever it comes at the moment.
The benefits of journaling go beyond how to connect with yourself. It can help you ease anxiety, improve your memory and transform your mindset. It can help you focus on the positive. It can even help you achieve your goals.
Starting a journal is as easy as gaining confidence and grabbing a pen and a journal. Set time aside each day to write, even if it’s only for five minutes. You can start by recording the day’s events and how you felt about them, writing down things you’re grateful for. Anything that prompts reflection can help with self-connection.
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